self help, modern stoicism, existential, how to, growth, mental health
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In this episode, Danny and Randy discuss dealing with boredom, the problem of contentment, and other topics.

The Existential Stoic Podcast – Episode 161 – Boredom, Contentment, and other Topics – available wherever you get your podcasts!

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In this episode, Danny and Randy discuss how to be uncomfortable. Discover the important connection between discomfort and growth…

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Existential, modern stoicism, self help, death, life, happiness, growth
with Danny & Randy

Many of us avoid thinking about death – we refuse to face the reality of our own mortality.

Facing and accepting the reality of death can help us live a good, meaningful life. In episode 145, Danny and Randy discuss life, death, and what to do before you die.

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Should we avoid suffering or seek it out? Is all suffering equal? How should we respond to suffering, stress, and other difficulties in life?

We all experience suffering, stress, and other challenges in life. How bad our experience is, however, depends on us, on how we respond to the bad and negative in life. Danny and Randy explore whether we should reevaluate suffering and stress on Episode 131 of The Existential Stoic.

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The Existential Stoic, self help, boundaries, limits, happiness, growth, self control
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The self-help world is full of praise for boundaries. They often make it seem like setting boundaries is an easy thing.

Find out why you should set boundaries, why they suck, and what challenges to expect when you start defining limits in your life.

Danny and Randy discuss why boundaries suck in episode 129 of The Existential Stoic.

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philosophy, great books, modern stoicism, virtue, plato, republic, wisdom, justice, happiness
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Plato’s Republic is a book everyone should read. Danny and Randy discuss important ideas, themes, and sections from Plato’s Republic.  

The Republic by Plato – Episode 125 – The Existential Stoic.

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Nietzsche, Philosophy, meaning, perspective, worldview, truth, existentialism, Sartre

We are all trying to make things intelligible, to make sense of our experiences, ourselves, and our world. The fact that we still disagree concerning the best or right or correct interpretation, the fact that there are so many perspectives, suggests that perhaps meaning is nothing more than a construct.

Most of us adopt values and beliefs simply because they are familiar, because they are those that dominate in our community, our country, our…The real reason we have adopted certain values, that we see the world the way we do, is convenience, happenstance. We, in short, believe what most people believe…we conform.

“Madness is rare in the individual – but with groups, parties, peoples, and ages it is the rule.”

Nietzsche

When Nietzsche points out that when it comes to groups, peoples, parties…madness is the rule, he means that there is a tendency to conform and protect the dominant perspective even when faced with evidence to the contrary. We lose our ability to think for ourselves when we conform, but the fundamental problem of meaning is (at least in a certain sense) solved. We know what’s true because we participate in a shared construct, in a shared worldview.

Sartre famously claimed that for humans “existence precedes essence.” He meant that we must make ourselves into something, that we only define ourselves after we exist, and that in truth there is no such thing as human nature which would otherwise determine who we are (and who we could become). The only thing we know with certainty is that we will die. We are beings aware of their own existence and their own mortality—a fact that has a far greater influence on us than most of us would probably like to admit.

We face a reality that is opaque. Try as we might, the world around us gives up only small secrets, and on all important matters remains utterly silent. We exist, to be sure, and we know we will die. We want answers, we want to know why and what for. We want to know what the meaning of life is, the purpose of our existence—but, as Camus points out, the universe is indifferent to our appeals and wants.

Humans are meaning makers—we create meaning and we have a drive to do so. We organize our world; we form a picture that allows us to operate day-to-day without fear. When we believe we can explain our experience, our interactions, when we think we understand our place and role in the world, we gain confidence and feel secure. We want to make our life intelligible because by doing so we remove unknowns, irregularities, we assign a value and place to everything.

Our desire to make sense of things, to make everything intelligible, drives our attempts to leave nothing unexplained. We quickly try to find a place for the new, the abnormal, the irregular, because everything that is not accounted for by our beliefs and values is a direct threat to the integrity of our worldview, our perspective. We think we understand things when the room looks clean, when everything is in its box, in its place, and we feel secure knowing there is nothing that we might trip over.

There is some part of us, a part that is perhaps deep within, one that rarely comes to the surface, but that nonetheless exercises great power—our fear of death, of threat, of danger. We know we will die, and experience tells us that the universe, existence, is indifferent to the individual entities that enjoy life for a short time. Death is the great unknown—it is an unknown in the sense that it comes unannounced, it is unknown in the sense that there are conflicting accounts of what it is (a transition, an absolute end, a new beginning…), it is final, and death is not bound by our sense of right and wrong or good and bad.

Making the world intelligible, making sense of things, makes us feel secure and comfortable because we are not surprised by irregular, unknown, or new experiences, which in turn assuages the fear and anxiety caused by awareness that we will die. Humans are self-aware, conscious entities, who are mortal and thus aware of their own mortality, of their temporality. But we are also meaning makers, and through meaning we create a familiar, knowable, and therefore less harsh and indifferent world, one in which our fears and anxieties need not be so intense, so overwhelming.

What many fail to recognize is that all the various perspectives people have are just so many ways of constructing a meaningful experience and world, but by no means are any representative of what is true, what is objectively the case. A world without meaning, without purpose, is simply a world in which we must each make meaning and create purpose.

The fact is, we thrive when we have reasons for acting, for living, for doing. Better that these reasons are our own, are ones that we have accepted and arrived at because they work for us. We should resist merely adopting values and beliefs because others have, we should resist conforming, because when we do the meanings that define our world and through which we make our experience intelligible are not our own. All we can do is live our own life, be our own person.

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Say No, Say Yes, existential, stoic philosophy, self help, happiness, motivation, growth
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To find your Yes, sometimes you must first embrace your No. Start with No – create the space to start examining yourself and find your Yes.

Danny and Randy explore why and when we should start with No in Episode 113 of The Existential Stoic.

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philosophy, self help, Nietzsche, authenticity, existentialism, meaningful life, conformity

In Nietzsche’s Dawn, he points out that at times we are all irrational. “We still continue to draw conclusions from judgments we consider false and from teachings in which we no longer believe—owing to our feelings” (Nietzsche). Even if we reject certain beliefs or customs, it is still possible that our feelings will be consistent with them. Changing how we feel is often difficult, especially when certain emotional responses and feelings are reinforced by social pressures and expectations.

We are taught to be a member of our community, to fit in. We are conditioned to experience feelings of guilt and shame whenever we deviate from the norm, whenever we fail to conform. Nietzsche calls us bound spirits when we conform to social norms and practices, when we accept the dominant perspective not for our own reasons, but because they represent the norm. What’s more, conforming is often easier than living our own, authentic life.

Problematic.—To accept a faith merely because it is the custom—that is certainly tantamount to: being dishonest, being cowardly…”

Nietzsche

As Nietzsche sees it, we are dishonest when we accept a faith, a perspective simply because it is the custom. In such cases, we don’t accept it on our own terms and lack reasons of our own that justify and explain why we accept a certain point of view. We are dishonest because we adopt values and beliefs that are not our own, ones that we haven’t found our own reasons for accepting.

Learning to Think Differently

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“We must learn to think differently—in order finally, perhaps very late, to achieve even more: to feel differently.”

Nietzsche

The only way to live our own lives is to think for ourselves, to think differently from the norm. We will never feel differently, we will never move beyond those experiences of shame and guilt that were a consequence of socialization and social conditioning, until we learn how to think for ourselves and do so for a long time. Even if we start questioning how we think and are mindful of our feelings, the feelings we were conditioned to experience when we deviated from the norm, from social customs, will remain with us for some time. Our feelings, in other words, are still tuned to society’s perspective rather than our own.

Our feelings… are still tuned to society’s perspective rather than our own.

In order to feel differently, we need to learn how to think differently. We need to think for ourselves and develop the strength to stand on our own. Our life is truly our own only when how we think and feel is an honest representation of who we are and what we believe.

An authentic life is an honest life in the sense that our thoughts and feelings are consistent and complementary. We are truly free and no longer bound or influenced by things like social pressures and expectations. But as Nietzsche suggests, to reach the point at which we feel differently takes time and effort.

If we live our own lives and strive to be honest with ourselves, hopefully we learn to think differently and, one day, feel differently.

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New from The Existential Stoic…

It can be difficult to be a good listener. When we really listen, we hear what others say to us and are more likely to understand their perspective.

Discover tips for how to listen in the latest Quick Fix from The Existential Stoic.

The Existential Stoic Quick Fix 110 – How to Listen – Available wherever you get your podcasts!

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